I thrive on the relationships I have with people. I am a sociable person. If I would go an entire day without interacting with another human being... wait, that would never happen! My husband on the other hand would love having a day like that. We are so different yet so perfect for each other. It's a great balance. When I am too involved and busy he makes me slow down; when he's too introverted I make him do fun things with people. We're good for each other. I think that we learn from each other, too. In fact I believe that we still learn just as much from our relationship today as we learned about relationships throughout our entire lives.
As I look around me and see lasting relationships and those that end I get discouraged. It seems as if there are many ending relationships. I can have a peace about my relationship with my husband. We made vows to each other on our wedding day and we take them seriously. Just as our parents did. Just as our grandparents did. As did generations before. We came from good homes and learned from the healthy relationships that we saw every day. We were fortunate to both have parents, grandparents, and many family members who realized the importance of relationships; the importance of a promise, constructive criticism, discipline, and a Reason to live the way they did. We saw unconditional love and a commitment to loving, learning, caring, arguing, making up, and learning some more.
Healthy relationships work through problems, good times, bad times, the arguments. They commit to something or someone and truly care for them. I think that a big issue for a lot of failing and harmful relationships today is the lack of good role models. In a world where everything seems to scream "me, me, me" it's hard to focus on others. And that is what good relationships are all about: focus on the other person, their needs, wants, and desires. You have to be willing to listen, to talk, to love, and to learn.
In the world of early childhood I believe that educators need a good grasp on healthy relationships. It is only when we have a firm understanding of healthy relationships that we can then set an example for our students - the next generation - and truly care about and connect with each family that comes into our centers and schools.
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